“It really doesn’t matter how long anyone lives but how much impact, legacy and footprint they were able to make while alive.” Toheeb Bisiriyu
Good evening sir. This is Personality Friday With Mimi. Can we meet you?
I am Toheeb Bisiriyu. A mental health therapist that deals with stress anxiety and depression.
I’m an inspirational writer, speaker and trainer. A certified project manager.
I help young people find their voice in an ever-noisy world.
I am an ambassador for the UN SDGs and an advocate for good governance.
My life statement is to be a humanist of its finest kind.
Can you tell us about UN SDGs?
The UN SDGs means United Nation Sustainable Development Goals.
The Sustainable Development Goals are the blueprint to achieve a better and more sustainable future for all.
There are 17 chosen goals that cut across different areas of our lives.
They address the global challenges we face, including those related to poverty, inequality, climate change, environmental degradation, peace and justice. The 17 Goals are all interconnected and in order to leave no one behind, it is our hope that we achieve most if not all of the goals by 2030.
Goal 1: No poverty.
Goal 2: Zero hunger.
Goal 3: Good Health and Well-being.
Goal 4: Quality Education
Goal 5: Gender Equality
Goal 6: Clean Water and Sanitation Goal 7: Affordable and Clean Energy Goal 8: Descent Work and Economic Growth
Goal 9: Industry, Innovation and Infrastructure
Goal 10: Reduced Inequality
Goal 11: Sustainable Cities and Communities
Goal 12: Responsible Consumption and Production
Goal 13: Climate Action
Goal 14: Life Below Water
Goal 15: Life on Land
Goal 16: Peace and Justice Strong Institutions
Goal 17: Partnership to Achieve the Goal.
Cool but with the way things seem getting worse, do you think poverty can be eradicated?
Yes. Poverty can be eradicated but for that to happen, we must approach it in a totally different manner.
We must begin to make policies that put people first and no one behind.
What we want to achieve about no poverty is to see that no one spends below a dollar a day out of poverty.
Out of the five agents of socialization, which do you think should be held responsible for causing depression?
I would say peer group because people (especially youths) find themselves among other people of their peers who are always appearing to be in a competition, wanting to appear that they are better off.
Peer group as much as I can say has the greatest influence on one’s life.
Do you think there’s a particular age where training for personal development would be a waste of time?
No, there is none as we are ever evolving beings.
No one knows their true self in its grandeur and splendor. We are all work in progress, learning about ourselves and the world everyday.
Personal development is continuum.
What would you tell one with a sickle cell anemia who seem to give up on life after hearing the statement “sicklers don’t live long”?
Well, for anyone with sickle cell anemia, my advise to them is; live bold.
It really doesn’t matter how long anyone lives but how much impact, legacy and footprint they were able to make while alive.
You only live once, whether short span or long span.
There’s this thing about most people who end up committing suicide not voicing out. What do you think is the solution to this?
The solution is finding someone whose trust and instinct has been vetted enough to handle your truth, speak up to that person, express all of yourself. Then, find professional help if need be.
Some people now get scared of disclosing their weak point to professionals because they believe they’ll end up being used as a topic of discussion.
What would you say about this?
First, it is unethical and totally out of place for professionals to disclose client’s story unless with their permission.
My advise to anyone is to still go ahead to speak up if they need to without minding whether the confidant would use it as a topic of discussion or not, what should matter to them is healing.
I’ve learnt that no matter how worse or funny your case is, people will only laugh, criticize and judge you once. After they are done, they all go back to their individual problems.
So, the fear of the mob should not stop us from getting help.
“After they are done, they all go back to their individual problems” That’s true and deep!
So, what made you decide to be a humanist?
I decided to be a humanist because that is the best I can be. In a world where everyone is looking for kind people but are not willing or afraid to be one, in a world where people are afraid to be real but are quick to snap at others when they sense hypocrisy.
I just want to be a humanist. No judging of others, regardless of who they choose to be.
What do you have to say to other youths out there?
My message to the youths out there is this: don’t let the internet or anyone rush you, take life with due meaning and focus, a step at a time, a moment as it comes.